Why it’s okay to argue
Updated: Jan 31, 2019
Disagreeing with our partner isn't the problem, it's the way we tolerate the disagreement.
I often tell my clients that we might want to be careful what we wish for if we thought we would prefer to be in a relationship in which we were always on the same page.
In the same way that disagreements with our parents growing up are inevitable and healthy because they contribute to individual growth and development for both child and parent, we may want to embrace the testing stage of intimate relationships, which is as important as the initial honeymoon.
If we can learn to hold on to ourselves as well as tolerate, respect and at times, accommodate the other, we may look forward to a mature stage in which we are both securely connected to our partner and resilient in our relationship with ourselves.